Trauma-Informed Nervous System and Well-Being Support

Rest, Restore and Rebalance your Nervous System.

Helping children, adults, and teachers feel calmer, more confident, and ready to conquer each day.

About Me

Kia ora,

I’m Toni Pakula, based in the beautiful Waikato, New Zealand, where I live with my husband and three children.

For more than 10 years, I have supported children, adults, and families to strengthen their wellbeing, build resilience, and create lasting change. While I have extensive experience supporting people navigating selective mutism and anxiety, my work extends to anyone wanting to better understand and regulate their nervous system, reduce feelings of stress and overwhelm, improve their health, and move towards a calmer, more fulfilling life.

As a registered Health and Nutrition Coach, I combine lived experience with formal qualifications, including a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology, a Graduate Diploma in Teaching, and ongoing postgraduate study. My approach is trauma-informed, strengths-based, and grounded in the understanding that lasting wellbeing begins with a regulated nervous system.

I offer personalised coaching that supports clients to restore balance, improve resilience, and achieve meaningful goals through evidence-informed strategies, including health and nutrition coaching, nervous system regulation, and the Safe and Sound Protocol. Together, we work to build practical, sustainable habits that support emotional wellbeing, confidence, and everyday functioning.

Alongside individual coaching, I work with families to support children in educational settings through Individual Education Plans (IEPs). I also provide workshops and professional learning for schools, equipping educators with practical strategies to support nervous system regulation, resilience, and wellbeing in the classroom.

Whether you're seeking support for yourself, your child, or your school community, my goal is to provide compassionate, practical guidance that helps people feel more connected, capable, and able to thrive.

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Why Work With Me

Over a decade of experience supporting individuals, families, children and educators with Selective Mutism and Anxiety
Trauma-informed, strengths-based, and paced approach
Lived experience + formal qualifications + postgraduate study
Practical, individualised support tailored to your goals and nervous system

Take the next step toward calm, confidence, and nervous system balance today

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The Safe and Sound Protocol

The Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) is a gentle, listening-based therapy designed to support nervous system regulation, emotional wellbeing, and a greater sense of safety and connection.

Using specially filtered music, SSP helps support the nervous system in moving out of stress and overwhelm, making it easier to feel calmer, more connected, and better able to engage in everyday life.

As a trauma-informed practitioner and Health & Nutrition Coach, I offer a holistic and supportive approach tailored to your individual needs.

SSP supports:

Anxiety and overwhelm
Emotional regulation
Stress and burnout
Sensory sensitivities
Focus and learning readiness
Social connection and communication
Overall wellbeing and resilience

Sessions are personalised and designed to support you at a pace that feels safe and achievable.

Selective Mutism & Anxiety Support

Practical and compassionate support for children, adults, and families navigating selective mutism and anxiety.

Together, we work to build confidence, emotional regulation, communication, and everyday coping strategies in a safe and supportive way.

Education Support

Supporting parents and educators to create safe, supportive learning environments for children.

Services include:

IEP guidance
Parent advocacy
School collaboration
Workshops and professional development

Services and Support

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Testimonials

Hear what others have to say.

Sam

Working with Toni has been life changing, and our weekly catch ups have been a highlight in my week. I would recommend her to anyone looking for parent and child mental health coaching. I have felt supported and validated in my questions to help my son back to wellness.
Jo

Highly recommend the Safe and Sound Protocol with Toni! it’s a gentle treatment that is enjoyable and effective. Toni’s guidance, education and kindness supports its success. I went from being on edge and struggling, to finding an effective treatment to calm my nervous system, to a calm and grounded person.
Kath

Our family has gained so much from working with Toni. Each session has been invaluable in learning about strategies to regulate the nervous system. Toni has provided support every step of the way, her depth of knowledge and passion has shone. I now have a much deeper understanding of Selective Mutism and the nervous systems role, and a bank of tools to support our family, which I am also using in my work as a primary school teacher.